tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4529100918767498816.post6128187261226324526..comments2012-04-08T18:36:39.386-07:00Comments on Behind the Lies: Fear, Recovery and Hope: InvitationBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14780054106587057867noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4529100918767498816.post-75904790480077816252009-08-02T18:51:09.920-07:002009-08-02T18:51:09.920-07:00I find myself doing this as well. I have turned do...I find myself doing this as well. I have turned down many invitaions simply for the fact that I didn't want to leave Hub alone. Alone time meant time for him to do the things he shouldn't. Unfortunately, I have turned down enough invitations that I no longer get them now that I would more easily accept them. I am glad you are getting to the point you can say "yes, absolutely"RockiBottomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04326290443800066850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4529100918767498816.post-12642328026576071422009-07-29T12:10:06.037-07:002009-07-29T12:10:06.037-07:00I've been struggling with this lately. There ...I've been struggling with this lately. There are many situations that I've been avoiding (i.e. parties, the beach, movies) because 1) I'm afraid they'll be too triggering for my husband and 2) because like you, I am afraid he'll be upset that I went without him and act out in the mean time. I'm trying very hard to be present for myself and as well as my husband, but it's definitely a delicate balancing act. I'm certain it will take a lot of faith on my part (in my Higher Power) to help me surrender my husband and his actions, so that I may continue to take care of myself & not fall back on old habits. <br /><br />BTW, I'm so glad you've decided to attend the PAR-TAY!!!Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01056486270958836623noreply@blogger.com